Success Stories
Mary’s writings, presentations, and workshops have helped individuals overcome a myriad of personal and professional challenges. Please select a link from the table of contents below to view her client’s success stories in more detail:
Personal
Professional
On Dealing With Cancer
“In August 2005, after a year of chemical therapy to get a raging prostate under enough control, and downsized enough, to give full-on radiation a chance for success, I was scheduled for kick-off surgery. With a PSA off the charts, and a mean Gleason of “9,” I was scared. After a year of trying to be Attitude Guy, it was on me: I was about to take the step that determined whether I lived or died. All the bottled up fear came racing in.
Then Mary arrived. She had talked to one of my groups a month earlier, and was to talk to another executive group the day before my surgery. I called her, and asked if we could meet the day before. She found time on her schedule, a full three hours, to meet at a local Mimi’s and help me understand how managing my thoughts could matter in the situation I faced. It was Mary, full-on, what she had come to understand, how she applied her ideas, how her approach had helped her survive her own great loss, and what my thought choices were as I jumped and pulled the cord.
On that summer afternoon, Mary hauled my mind back from the abyss. She reinforced my own raggedy thought management notions, and gave me a focus that changed mightily how I “made it through,” not only the so-called “minor surgery,” but the brutal beating administered by ten weeks of radiation, and the even worse lashing that can come from raw fear. Was fear abolished? No. Was it fun? No. But it was managed, and I could put my energy on living, and once again, I am!
Looking back, it seems so simple. Nonsense! We each rue our inability to get out of the funk, the dread of being out of control emotionally. We each wish there could be a way to prevent the slide, or stop the slide, or find our way back from the slide.There is. A basic way to look at, and manage, what we think. Which dictates how we feel. And ultimately, what we do. It is called Managing Thought – How Do Your Thoughts Rule Your World? Get it. Read it. Live it. Within those pages, there is a whole new opportunity to find your way through. To decide on what you think. To own you.
Thanks, Mary!”
Lawrence M. Cassidy
Chair – Executive Coach and Mentor
Vistage International, Inc
larrycassidy.me
On Overcoming Worry, Stress and Anxiety.
“I have read Mary’s book, as well as participated in a couple of her training sessions. I am someone who has always struggled with worry and anxiety and knew that I could overcome that by implementing many of Mary’s strategies. By changing the way I speak, and taking more time to evaluate the things I am thankful for, I have noticed how much better I feel. Although I have always been a healthy person, I know that continued stress leads to physical problems. I am very happy to have found ways to control my thought process at a young age – before the “worry thoughts” affect more than just my mind. I am now keeping a thankfulness journal, daily capturing my gratitude for things happening in my life, from getting up in the morning, to spending special time with my daughter. This has really helped my focus. It takes time to make many of the techniques a habit, but now that I have been “practicing” for a couple of months, I feel like I have made so much progress! Mary is very inspirational and I’m grateful for the applicable resources. Thank you Mary!”
Anonymous
Submitted via Share Your Success Story on ManagingThought.com
Creating Intentions Together as a Couple
My husband Rick and I have already added your “formula” to a weekly ritual that we do. Every Sunday we pick an “angel card” (I’m sure you’ve seen them) and then become aware/add whatever behavior or principal that word indicates to our lives throughout the week. Yesterday, I chose “discernment” and Rick chose “responsibility”. I suggested that instead of just talking about what those meant with each other, to do the 7 question format – “If I’m being ____ what am I doing? Then, of course, reading our answers to each other. Then we chose the top 2 and decided that during the week we were going to apply the “7” to those as well. Doing this added so much more to our exchange – AND we had fun (no judgment).
Denise Martin
San Jose, California
On Setting a Vision for Our Children
I never thought about setting a vision for the daily life of my children. I can now look at all their activities and prioritize them and, in the case of my teenagers, help them decide how to spend their time.
Anonymous Mom, Detroit, MI
On Dealing With Panic and Immobility
My cat was diagnosed with a chronic disease which will probably be what he dies from. There are actions to take and there are deteriorations which will inevitably happen. I use the concepts in the book to keep focusing on my love for all those around me, to shed old beliefs about having to save those I love, an unrealistic expectation, and the old belief that anything less than pure contentment in my pets is unacceptable and I am a terrible person if I let that happen. I focus on the beautiful flow of life in all beings around me and my active participation in that flow feeling joy daily as I observe this. This has helped me to shed the panic and immobility which the news of my cat’s health sent me into, and keeps me from going back there endlessly….a pattern which was well established in me prior to reading this book.
Karen Malley
Parent and environmental activist
Anaheim CA
Depression Remedy
I read this book because I’d heard it helped a friend in her attitude toward her business. Little did I realize that it was also a specific, step by step method to overcome depression and the feelings of helplessness I felt in many areas of my life. Now, when I start feeling an emotional drop, I just start using the tools contained in this wonderful book, and I don’t have to be a victim of what used to feel like the inevitable. Emotional drops are not inevitable. Now I understand that, and can not only avoid them, but can guide my life toward any direction I feel is right for me. This book is a very realistic version of ‘Your Dreams Come True’
Anonymous Book Review
Posted at BarnesandNoble.com
Helped me in challenging circumstances
Mary Lore’s book Managing Thought, has been instrumental in working through some very difficult situations both professionally and personally recently. Previously I would have approached a situation in a very linear manner, pursuing the results I want and correcting along the way to preserve the relationship, the outcome was routinely poor with damage to the relationship and the results were not what they could have been.
I recently had a business experience with a customer we had been trying to satisfy unsuccesfully for two years to complete a his project. We traveled to meet him, worked on his issues and intended to separate by leaving him a check for a significant sum of money and a cessation letter from our attorney. We worked hard to resolve as many issues on site as possible, but we still faced a legal termination of the relationship.
Managing Thought provided me with tools I used to resolve nearly all of our outstanding issues and bring about resolution ‘without attorneys’ for a 10th of our proposed settlement costs. What Mary’s book taught me is the concept of creating separation between the negative thoughts coming out of your brain and the reality that those thoughts are different from who you are, what you want to present and what you want to accomplish! This was an epiphany to me. Adding that element of control and not reacting to situations with the thoughts presented by my brain helped me enormously. The discipline of treating negative thoughts as merely input ‘and not always constructive’ to the situation really opened my eyes. I am genuinely grateful to Mary and her wonderful book!
Scott Bendle
Michigan
Posted at Amazon.com
On Increasing Creativity and Innovation
“After seeing Mary speak on Managing Thought, I implemented two simple strategies. They remain as simple post it notes on my monitor. They read: “Change but to and…” and “How can we?” These two simple phrases have changed my management style and benefitted my entire organization. As a fundamentally positive person, I often struggled with ways to assist others in moving forward and staying positive. It was difficult for me to see how something easy for me could be difficult for others. These two practical phrases have had a profound impact on our organization – helping us to achieve over 180% growth in a 5-year time frame. Thank you Mary!”
Amanda Christides
President, Plymouth Technology, Inc.
Rochester Hills, Michigan
On Raising Money for a Not-For-Profit
Managing my thoughts has truly enhanced my life. I used to tell myself that I could not possibly ask people for money. I could give you all the variations on this theme, however those are old dead branches and suckers I choose not to revisit. During the course of the workshop with you I was able to come up with, “I ask people for money so that they can celebrate in the joy of helping others.” This thought took some time for me to actualize. I would do the meditation you offered us and look at my unhealthy thoughts and work on embracing my new ones. The big day came when I found myself in the position to ask someone for a donation to our not for profit organization. Believe me I was practically chanting my new thought before the meeting. I did spend some time role-playing this in my head and on paper before meeting the donor. So, I asked them for 1 million dollars. (Not bad for a first try, huh?) The response I got was,” we were thinking more around the $100,000 range, but if you need $1 million, we will throw a dinner party with our friends to help raise the money.” This is just one example of where Managing Thought has improved my life.
Carl Clark, M.D.
Denver, Colorado
On Handling Limiting Beliefs in Sales Presentations
My first success occurred last Friday. We had a major presentation against a competitor who has dragged my sales guys down into mudslinging each time in the past. I used your “power of managing thought” coaching to handle the negative beliefs about them beginning with a pre-call huddle where everyone breathed deeply and specifically breathed out the anger and breathed in the power of the good things that we are going to do for this customer. Right off the bat, the customer made it clear they were keen to the conflict. We were presenting last and they had picked up negative vibes from the competitor and hit us right between the eyes with “this other company offers the same thing you do, why are you different.” Needless to say, my team had been prepared for this and their thoughts were clear. They stayed high tuned and the customer was left with no doubt about who was interested in them and who wasn’t. We stayed 100% interested in the customer’s success and avoided the conflict, and kept ten people engrossed and involved until 6:00 PM on a Friday afternoon after they had been through a full day of presentations already.
Eric Brackett
Los Angeles California
On Moving from Darkness and Overwhelm to Creating an Exciting Business and Life
I attended a semi-private coaching session with Mary in 2007. At the time, my business life was in turmoil and I was sorely in need of help in finding a positive direction forward. My business partner of over 20 years had recently retired, leaving me solely in charge of our multi-office engineering firm. The added responsibilities seemed over-whelming and I was forced to deal with several key staff and client individuals who I felt were making my life miserable.
Michael Brown
Mary took me through several exercises, including her PrioriTree® process, that were very helpful in sorting out what was important to me versus what was merely stressful and seemingly making my life unbearable.
Of all her teachings, the most impactful was her coaching me to focus on what I wanted, rather than what I didn’t want. I was enmeshed in the day-to-day struggle, wishing I was the one who had retired and I couldn’t see a way out. Mary showed me that the flipside of what was bothering me gave me insight as to what I truly valued. For example, the struggles I had with the difficult, non-performing and unreasonable individuals revealed that I truly valued working with productive, reliable and fun people. Once I recognized this I was able to choose to surround myself with the kind of people I enjoyed collaborating with.
“Miraculously” the difficult individuals all disappeared from my life. I also received two excellent acquisition offers from larger firms that enabled my firm to provide our services to a much larger national and international clientele, which expanded growth potential for my staff, provided enhanced capabilities to offer our clients and provided me with personally financial security. With Mary’s guidance, I now do what I love to do with people I enjoy working with. I emerged from the darkness and created an exciting life that I look forward to exploring every day.
Founder and President, Michael D. Brown Consulting Engineers
On Shifting from Selling to Being of Highest Service
Before I met Mary and was introduced to Managing Thought, I was facing obstacles in marketing my Energy Kinesiology services. I absolutely thrived when I was one-on-one with clients, however, I was apprehensive and stifled when it came to marketing and ‘selling’ myself. Mary worked with me to reframe and recalibrate my thoughts. I used the exercises in her book to refine my goals and motivations in being a practitioner. I adopted an attitude of ‘highest service’ vs. selling. This made all the difference and my practice flourished. I am very grateful to Mary and have recommended her book to many of my colleagues.
Saci McDonald
Certified Energy Kinesiology and Breathwork Practitioner
www.sacimcdonald.com